My Mother and Stepfather have arrived for visiting hours and unbeknownst to them, they have entered into a war zone. They have not approached Charlie and I yet. He and I are still in the corner of the unit talking. Well, not talking. We are verbally abusing one another. I know Charlie’s patterns, when we fight; he generally likes to keep his mouth shut as I uncontrollably spew insulting venom from my chops. I am squeezing my hands into fists; my fingernails engrave their imprints into my palms making them bleed. Sickly, I am pleased I have discovered a new way to hurt myself. However, it does not ease my anger or the tumultuous anxiety flooding throughout my chest. My eyes are focusing on the floor, trying to think of something, anything that would cause my drinking. Charlie wants me to figure out “the reason behind my drinking. “Of course my father and what he had done to me as a child. But, my father’s not here. Another reason, as I said before, I’m looking at it. Charlie.
I spoke the truth to Charlie when we started our battle. Let’s take a gander shall we? Charlie is exceedingly older than myself, I became a housewife at 18 and lost those precious years of entering womanhood to figure out who am I, I was pregnant at nineteen (planned) walking around college being called a “whore,” I could not go out and when I did he did not like it. Prisoner is the word. As Tom Petty would say, I was “living like a Refugee.” My eyes shoot up to his pale green eyes. I am staring Charlie down. The fire within erupts and I begin to attack once more. “You never wanted a family? Is that right Charlie? I see now, all YOU wanted was a young girl to keep. A trophy wife, your little rag doll. No wonder I fucking drink. I am living with an old man, who goes to bed at eight every night. We do NOTHING! You did not even help me when Jonah was a baby. You’re a pedophile who had no consideration of what impact you would have on my life. You only thought of yourself. Asshole.” Oh Boy, I just pushed some major buttons. He says nothing. Now whose the asshole. Me.
Charlie takes off his glasses and rubs his tired, bloodshot eyes. “Listen Ka, you are right about me being old. You did bear the brunt of caring for Jonah when he was a baby. I’m just not good at that stuff.” Are you freaking kidding me, that’s the worst excuse I have ever heard. Charlie proceeds talking. “Yes, you are young, beautiful, charming, and funny and the love of my life. Kara, age doesn’t matter. You’ve been told you are an old soul, wise beyond your years. I guess I just didn’t put our age difference in perspective.” If he thought that would decrease my resentment, he was absolutely incorrect with his approach. If my eyes were laser beams he would be ashes. “So Charlie, you have solidified my answer to why I was drinking…you really fucked me over good.” Charlie sighs and bows his head down. I turn my head and watch as my mom and stepdad approach me. My severe rage drifts away the moment I catch my mother’s eye. I feel like a child again in need of my mommy. I yearn for the times again when she would carry me up the stairs and put me to bed. I ache for her to slowly run her fingers through my hair and around my ears to ease my little body to sleep. The tears flood. As long as I’m living her baby I will be and I wish, for right now, in my current state, to be the swaddled baby once again. Because for as long as I’m living my mommy she will be…
This is what happens when you hold in anger. It distorts your face in ways unimaginable. Let it out so you do not look like this.